Have you ever thought to yourself, “I wish I could be more confident like her?” or have you said “she’s so confident, look at her?”. Guess what?! You can be more confident! Today, I am sharing 5 ways to be more confident!
Confidence, as defined by the Oxford dictionary is: “the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust” & “a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.”
Confidence is something that is developed over time, a series of events, experiences and emotions causes your brain to create these “snapshots” on how you felt in those times and causes your brain to store this information for later use. Confidence is knowing what you’re worth is- despite a given outcome. Confidence is knowing no matter what situation, you will not fail, you trust your abilities.
You know the quote “Fake it until you make it”? There is science behind that statement. It’s really a deliberate act of being and causing a reaction that links together. You are what you think you are! I read this interesting article that speaks exactly to this here.
In short, the Hebbian Principle, “What fires together, links together”. When you do something in association to something else, those two things become interlinked. Our brains are made of specialized neurons that are constantly communicating with each other. These neurons adjust how we remember and categorize our experiences together and can become hard coded into our brains as a “part of who we are”.
When we are confident, we believe that anything is achievable, that success will happen. When we feel confident, we engage the part of our brain- the striatum and prefrontal cortex- that is associated with reward and pleasure. (Read from source here) When we are confident, we actually feel good and causes those around us to feel good too!
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I love this article written on the “Power of Confidence” because it emphasizes the point that confidence is knowing your worth. You can not blame your past, your childhood, your upbringing, your mom, your dad, you can not cast blame on anyone or anything else. Confidence is the power of knowing you are able to trust yourself, your abilities and believe in your success. You can become more confident, you have to believe you can and take steps to increase your confidence.
Here 5 ways to become more confident:
1.) Affirmations: Affirmations are positive statements we say about ourselves that over time, tells our brains what we think of ourselves.
“I am in love with myself & my body”.
“I am becoming more confident each and every day”.
“I believe in myself and I know I can achieve anything”.
“Today is a good day for me to be my best self”.
2.) Be self aware of posture and body language. First impressions are formed under seven seconds (see source here) and what your body language conveys is a direct result to how someone responds to you. Be aware of how you appear when communicating to others and take note on those who you feel are super confident: how are they standing? What are they doing with their hands?
3.) Dress to impress {yourself}. How we view ourselves factors into our confidence. I like to wear things that make me feel good about myself. I like to wear things that flatter my body, that show off the features I love most about myself. We all have been there where we go to work and something about our outfit is just off. Maybe it’s your bra that keeps showing, maybe your skirt is shorter than you had thought and you keep pulling it down all day. These things happen, we are human! But did you notice that you weren’t comfortable all day long and it kept consuming your thoughts? If your outfit or hair style, make up, if it was something that didn’t make you feel good then don’t repeat it again. Wear things that make you feel your best-always!
4.) Visualize yourself as who you want to be. Visualizing is a basic tool we use daily to understand ourselves in relation to the world around us. Be sure to always picture yourself succeeding, picture yourself at the finish line, visualize yourself graduating, visualize yourself 15 pounds lighter. Whatever you see in your mind is something that can be created and achieved!
5.) Surround yourself with positive people: Make room for only the good in your life. If there is someone that you always walk way from feeling anxious, depressed or less about yourself- stop hanging out or conversing with this person. Misery likes company and that is a place you do not want to be. If this person is a close family member or friend, try to be a positive light but you must be aware of how often this person is impacting your thoughts. You have one life and it should be filled with people who lift you up and inspire you to be your best, confident self! Make room for only the good!
I hope you enjoyed today’s post. I hope I can be a positive inspiration in your life and I so very appreciate you taking the time to be here and reading what I have to say. It really means a lot to me!
xx, Brittany Ann
I wrote this post a while back- My Body Insecurities & How I am Dealing with Them incase you want to read more! I feel like I have come along way on how I view myself and I hope over time you can recognize that you have made progress too!
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